Are Successful Women Scary to Men?

In the corporate world, men are beginning to notice that more women are beginning their slow but steady ascent up the ladder. Is this cause for alarm? An in-depth look at how men view the surge of professional women in what used to be male-dominated court.

These are really interesting points to ponder. It is a bit of a catch 22 even. Remember when it was all about feminism and equal rights? Women fought so hard and so long to get the attention in the workplace that they thought they deserved. Now that they are able to work the jobs that they want, professional women are wondering where all the men went. Are men really afraid of women who are successful? An investigative look:

Women say that when they go for the job that they want, they are essentially giving up the opportunity to settle down and get married. Men take this as a signal that this type of women are a waste of time to pursue because they have already made the choice of career over relationship. Men don’t necessarily agree with this point of view. They say that they are put off by this type of women not because they have chosen a career over the relationship but because of what this move represents.

Men believe that a woman who is gung ho about proving herself and racking up accomplishments can be unattractive as opposed to a woman who takes care of other’s first and does not let her goals be the end all and be all of her existence. Most men appreciate a woman who demonstrates an ability to work with and for other people. According to men, it’s not so much as “scared of” as “unattractive.”

When a woman is in a high flying career, they tend to focus on their goals and what makes them happy. There is nothing wrong with this but they must be clear on what they want. If they are willing to stay single for the sake of their careers, then she must not be go around complaining about the lack of any good men out here. On the flip side, if they do want to settle down, then they must be sensitive enough to show that they are still caring and nurturing enough to be able to make a man want to spend the rest of his life with them. It may sound a little gender biased but its true.

There is hardly any woman out there who doesn’t want to get married. Of course they do. Perhaps the career is only an excuse or as way of validation that they are not lonely. But women and men are created to pair up so maybe this can serve as a wakeup call to all professional women out there. It is a matter of letting go of the steering wheel and letting men woo you for awhile.

Making the shift between professional women and married women will be easier if you learned to let men do their jobs.

Rowena is a successful entrepreneur who likes sharing her knowledge to aspiring entrepreneurs. She also likes the National Association of Professional Women or NAPW for empowering women.


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